Discovering Your Identity and Values
When you don’t know what you want, it can feel like you’re standing in a fog, searching for any landmark to guide you forward.
Sometimes, the fog isn’t really about options or timing.
It’s about something deeper:
Not knowing who you are becoming.
Not being sure what matters most to you.
Today, let’s gently explore how reconnecting with your identity and your values can bring the clarity you’ve been longing for.
Why Identity and Values Matter
Think of your identity as who you are beneath the roles.
Not just a job title, a family label, or an old story you’ve carried.
But the truest version of yourself: your nature, your passions, your essence.
Your values are the core beliefs and guiding principles that help you decide what’s meaningful, right, and aligned.
When you feel disconnected from your identity and values, it’s hard to:
- Make decisions
- Choose a direction
- Feel confident about where you’re going
Reconnecting can be the compass that points you home.
How to Reconnect With Who You Are
This isn’t about inventing a shiny new identity—it’s about uncovering what was always there.
Here are some ways to begin:
1. Reflect on Seasons When You Felt Most Like Yourself
Ask yourself:
- When in my life have I felt most alive?
- What was I doing? Who was I with? What did I believe about myself?
These moments are clues to your truest self.
2. Name Your Values
Values are personal. They’re not what you think you “should” care about—they’re what actually matters in your bones.
A few examples of core values:
- Freedom
- Creativity
- Faith
- Connection
- Integrity
- Growth
- Simplicity
Try choosing 3–5 that feel most true. Write them somewhere visible.
3. Notice What Doesn’t Fit Anymore
Part of clarity is recognizing what no longer feels aligned:
- Roles that feel empty
- Commitments that drain you
- Stories you’ve outgrown
Releasing these gently can create space for something new.
4. Honor Your Evolving Identity
You are not the same person you were five years ago—or even one year ago.
It’s okay to let yourself change.
You are allowed to become someone softer, bolder, truer.
A Gentle Reframe
Identity isn’t fixed. Values can evolve.
The goal isn’t to nail down a perfect definition.
It’s to notice what feels right, right now.
From this place, your desires often become clearer.
A Final Encouragement
If you feel unsure who you are or what you stand for, trust that you are not behind.
You are in a season of remembering.
A season of becoming.
Give yourself time to explore without pressure.
Reflection for Your Heart
What parts of myself feel most true and alive?
What values do I want to honor as I move forward?
You deserve to know yourself—and to let that knowing shape what comes next.
—Laura